FAQs and expert advice about celebrant

Here is a selection of Q&As from Your Herts and Beds Wedding magazine whether it be about flowers, hair and makeup, fashion, wedding themes, health & beauty, cakes, stationery, legal advice. If you would like your question answered by our experts, please email it to editor@yourhertsbeds.wedding


Setting the tone

Setting the tone

Q. How can a celebrant help us make the ceremony extra special?

A. Kelly Hawes says: Often, the main reason for using a celebrant is because couples want to add special touches to their ceremony and would rather have someone telling the story of who they are and the journey they've taken together. The experience is far from a traditional wedding ceremony that you might expect or have experienced before.

That said, couples often still want the usual highlights of a traditional wedding such as an entrance, exchanging vows, rings and the “I dos” – all of which a celebrant can include if desired.

As well as the personal story, a celebrant can add so much more. Add symbolic elements such as hand-tying, candle lighting or planting a tree. Or why not include guests? Maybe your parents will be involved by placing the ribbons across your wrists for the hand tying section or as part of a wine sharing ritual (one of my favourites) where they might offer you wine to drink as an acceptance into the family, which you in turn share with your partner for life.

Your guests should be listening to your ceremony while thinking 'this is so them' throughout.

Kelly Hawes, Kelly H Celebrant


Say 'I do'

Say 'I do'

Q. We want a non-traditional wedding and my friend mentioned about a celebrant being a good idea, what are the pros to having one on our big day?

A. Kelly Hawes says: There are many pros to having a celebrant-led wedding, particularly if you're looking for something highly personal, different and with the wow factor. The reason being that there are simply no rules in place surrounding location or content.

This is because a celebrant in the UK is unable to perform the legal marriage part (declaratory and contractual words that must be said and the signing of the register). Take out the legal aspect and you're left with all the good stuff including the ceremony, the rituals and anything you want to add or take away.

You can pick any location, time, content and structure to suit your dream wedding – however that may be! The legal bit is done on a separate day at the registry office with just you two, your witnesses and the registrar, it's simply a formality to register your marriage.

As a celebrant I write every wedding ceremony from scratch after meeting each couple and getting to know them and their needs. We will be in frequent contact throughout the process and you couldn't ask for a more personal way to show your love and declaration to each other for the rest of your lives.

Kelly Hawes